But it remains a double standard, since more women, about half, believe a man should pay more if he makes more.“It’s a totally different world, and it’s an expensive world,” Lever, the sociologist, said. About half of surveyed men said the initiator should pay.He later proved to be controlling and jealous — which triggered their eventual breakup.“I feel uncomfortable if a guy pays for everything,” said the 24-year-old Hoock, now a business consultant for IBM.
But plenty of women these days make more than the men they date. A fair amount, a third, of gals believe they should pay more of the dating expenses if they earn more than a guy.Although meant to show how much he cared for her, his splurges made her feel obligated to hang out with him — and created rifts in the relationship.They fought over his domineering spending style, and, frustrated, they eventually quit shopping together.“The rules of courtship are in the transitional period,” said Diane Mapes, a dating expert and author of “How to Date in a Post-Dating World.” “There is a lot of confusion and frustration — and expectation out there.” That’s likely why guys tend to follow the trusted traditional etiquette — at first.But it’s becoming a courtesy for gals to offer after that. But tossing them an offer throws them into a fool’s game: If guys accept or refuse, they risk offending gals.