How to message a girl on a dating site

I can’t believe I have to say this, but based on how frequently I, and friends I know, get creep messages, it’s eternal advice.

Not being a creep is actually so easy when you think of the person on the other end as a living, breathing human.

Instantly, I’d learned that this person had actually looked at my profile and was dorky enough to correctly identify the pokémon casually sitting on my bookshelf.

Let the conversation naturally make its way there if it’s going to happen. Using a cheesy joke on Tinder is not the same as a pickup in a bar because the person you’re talking to lacks crucial context clues on your tone and general body language.

Even if you happened to get her number the “old fashioned” way, don’t worry – these basic rules still apply to you.

If you want increase your odds of getting a response, you need to nail the timing. If you text her within minutes of getting her number, you look needy and clingy.

Does this human, with thoughts and feelings like mine, want or really need my opinion of them?

Would I say this in front of my parents, or theirs? Here’s a good example, taken from my personal archives, to the right.

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