China dating scene
When I’m in China, I tend to turn a lot of heads, especially in the countryside — and that’s not just because I’m a foreigner.
It’s because I’m often seen holding hands with my Chinese husband.
Not because he’s a Chinese man, or because our relationship is “unique” or different.
Lea and Judy are part of a small community that enjoys giving and receiving love with multiple partners.
With a few exceptions, Asian men on screen have been small, sneaky and threatening — or spineless, emasculated wimps, or incompetents who may well be technically proficient in martial arts, but impotent when faced with white man’s superior strength or firepower. Even today, Asian American men complain that action heroes such as Chow Yun Fat and Jackie Chan rarely get the girl.
I don’t doubt he loved me in the beginning — but once his family knew, I suspect they made it clear that there was no future in what we had.
Even my own husband was first told by his parents that he could be friends with a foreign girl, but not date her.
Despite polyamory not being all about sex, no one sees it crossing cultural barriers in Hong Kong any time soon is absolutely not about swinging, insists Lea, who declines to reveal her full name because she believes her lifestyle choice is widely misperceived in her home city of Hong Kong.
Polyamory is defined as the state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person at a time.